10 Tips For Making Loving Connections Fast!
You know sometimes in the hustle of everyday life, it's easy
to forget to tell our loved ones just what they mean to us. But don't be put off as it doesn't have to
take a lot of planning. Love is in the
little details that make up our lives. You’ll find me I’m Genovieve Relationship Solution Therapist in Wycombe, and even though I Coach others, I still choose to follow my own tips or what
others say that works. None of us are faultless and we all are a working
progress to getting our needs met by the right person’s. So...
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| Tips For Couples To Improve Connection. |
Do you ever feel like you catch up with your partner
infrequently, often late at night when you’re too tired to speak? Or when your timetables happen to
collide? There are work dinners, school
outings, sporting practice, dinners with friends, homework to supervise,
household chores and so the list goes on.
Do you feel like you need to make a date night just to spend some one on
one time with your other half? Time when
you’re not sleeping?
If this sounds like you then I’m sure you will enjoy these
tips for keeping each other close at heart, even if you can’t always be as
physically close as you’d like.
It’s all about communicating and sharing the little things
that make up our lives. Here are ten
easy ways to make your feelings known:
1.
Birthday love letter. There is something powerful about a
letter. A few years ago my partner and I
agreed to write a love letter for each other’s birthday. I think I picked it up from a magazine
article about Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise.
Apparently it’s something they used to do in lieu of expensive
presents. Obviously it didn’t work for
their marriage but we’ve found it has become the part of our birthday
celebrations that we enjoy the most. Writing
down all the things that you love about the other person and then giving it to
them is a very personal and thoughtful thing to do. In many cases its better than any gift you
could possibly imagine and something to appreciate and cherish even when the
birthday is a distant memory. You can do
it for your children too if you have any and they will never need to doubt that
you love them. Of course, you don’t
have to wait until it is your loved ones birthday to send them a letter –
anytime is a good time to tell them how you feel about them.
2.
Sit down and talk about your day. When we can we sit down at the table to eat
our evening meal and take it in turns to talk about what we did in our
day. Even our two and a half year old
joins in. For a long time he would talk
about who he saw rather than what he did but now he’s getting the hang of
it. The other thing we take it in turns
to do is name the best and worst things that happened that day. Sometimes so much happens each day that it
helps to pause and reflect on what were the highlights and lowlights.
3.
Celebrate all your partner’s successes with them
– from a high five to a glass of champagne.
Whatever the scale of the success calls for, make it a joint
celebration.
4.
Allow yourself to be impressed by your partner
and let them know. ‘I’m proud of you’ is
something that I think everyone loves being told by someone they care about.
5.
Never underestimate the power of a hug – train
your kids to hug you back. My five year
old son Jack loves hugs. He loves giving
them and getting them. Sometimes he will
spontaneously hug someone if he feels they are a bit sad, although usually he
asks first if they would like ‘a Jack hug’
6.
Send them a photo that means a lot to you and
tell them why its important – you could use a Show & Tell Card. It’s a new type of greeting card that lets
you stick your photo on the front and is blank inside so you can write what you
like. Go to
http://www.showandtellcards.com for more information
7.
Share an experience. It could be a movie, a new CD, magazine
article, or a short story. Talk about
what you read or saw and why you liked or disliked it. And do it regularly.
8.
Compliments.
Everyone loves getting them so never pass up the opportunity to give one
of these reliable mood boosters. You can
give them in person or write them on a small piece of paper and leave them
somewhere unexpected for your loved one to find.
9.
Dance. It
doesn’t take long to find a great song you both enjoy, put it on and dance
around the living room floor – probably 5 minutes maximum but it is a wonderful
way to physically reconnect with each other in between dinner and desert or at
the end of a long evening or you could make it an unusual way to start your
day.
10.
Thoughtful gestures. Doing something unexpected, especially when
you’re loved one is busy and stressed, is a lovely way to show that you
understand what they are going through and that they have your support.
Showing your partner how much you
love them need not take a lot of time and you will be rewarded many times over
for your effort. Get loving today!Genovieve Feasey Relationship Solution Therapist
Relationship Coaching in Wycombe, Buckinghamshire
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