Relationship Therapy Blog


Wednesday 31 July 2013

Why Is It Important For Women To Initiate Romance?


Oftentimes we, as women, leave our needs unexpressed and wait for our husbands to just guess what to do. Many men honestly don’t know how to be romantic. And, when they do get up the courage to attempt romance, their efforts may not be expressed in a way that we appreciate or even recognize as romance. Follow this link on utube   Why is it important for women to initiate romance  http://youtu.be/0aCw6SPRRYE
Look how silly this sounds. If your son was attempting algebra and didn’t understand it, you wouldn’t cry because he didn’t love you. As a mom, we’d sit down, and go over it again and again, for as long as it took until he understood. Yet, we expect our husbands to know something that they’ve never been taught. Instead of leaving your man to struggle, show him how to romance you. How will he know what to do if you don’t show him?   So, how can you teach him how to romance you?

1. Be romantic yourself.
If you show him that you value him and love him on a regular basis, instead of expecting him to be the romantic one, he’ll be more receptive to trying it himself. The old saying “You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar” definitely applies. Yelling and crying because he isn’t romantic isn’t exactly going to put him in the lovey mood.

2. Tell him what you like.
Do you enjoy expensive gifts or would you rather have him make something for you? Would you like him to go on walks with you? Give you cut flowers or live plants?

Make a list of every birthday, anniversary and holiday and include ideas for things he can buy or do for you. Set him up to succeed.
3. Learn what he likes.

The same thing stands for him. Know what makes him happy.   Please don’t buy him an expensive gift if he’s the frugal type. He won’t like it.

Don’t take him to a fancy French restaurant if he’s a Burger kind of guy. It’s ok to take him there for your birthday, but don’t take him there for his birthday.  If he loves sports, then go to them with him.
Please initiate romance. So often, women just get more and more resentful that they aren’t feeling romanced and their man has no clue what to do to fix it. There really should be a required romance course before you can get your marriage license. At least that way, men would, at some point in time, learn how to be romantic. Until then, it’s our job to show him just what we want and need to feel special. Now go Romance Your Man!

Monday 29 July 2013

4 Tips To Keep Romance Alive – On A Budget

Hey here are some tips to help boost your relationship, and it doesn't have to cost the earth. Just use your initiative, spontaneity along with creativity to 'woo' back the person whom you with to be intimate with. If you feel you'd like some support in an area of Relationship Coaching I offer a 'Free' Life M.O.T Click Here...

Just about everyone agrees that a nice dinner and a good bottle of wine at a quiet, intimate restaurant will set the mood for romance, but have you seen the price tag? Not everyone can afford to spend big money on romance ever time, but a bit of creativity can get the same results without breaking the bank.

So here are 4 Tips to keep the romance going on a budget!

1. While most people know about ‘his and hers’ items like bathrobes and towels, there are a number of other items that can be enjoyed together as ‘couples’ items.  Try getting matching T-shirts with cute sayings on them.  Have matching his and hers overnight bags, coffee mugs, bicycles, cell phones, cars, holiday ornaments, tennis rackets, rocking chairs and even matching carved pumpkins on Halloween.

2.  Surprise your partner by making the ordinary a little more special. If he or she is enjoying a good book, remove the bookmark and replace it with a note that says, “I bet you’ll never guess where I’ve hidden your bookmark.” If they always turn the TV on when they come home from work, tape a note on the television that says, “Wouldn’t you rather turn me on?” instead. 

3.  Making important memories is one way to be romantic on a budget. Challenge your partner to remember the most romantic kiss that you’ve seen in a movie. This will lead to some discussion about romantic kisses and should enhance the mood. As a surprise, buy that movie one day and try to recreate that special romantic kiss! Keep it in a special place and re-watch it whenever the mood strikes. If you can’t agree on the single most romantic kiss, go ahead and create a top five list. This tip works for anything. The top five most romantic songs. The top five most romantic movies. The top five most romantic books. You see the pattern. Make sure to go ahead and buy the books, songs, movies or whatever so you can use them in the future.

4.  If you want to plan the ultimate romantic evening but funds are low or you simply don’t want to have to leave the house, shut down the electricity and imitate a power outage (it’s up to you whether or not you tell him or her!).  You won’t have any distractions or heat, so it is up to both of you to keep the other warm and entertain each other.
It’s hard to find anyone who doesn’t enjoy an Oreo cookie.  Take an Oreo (or generic version of one), scratch the top of the cookie until smooth and then scratch a heart and your initials into the smooth surface.  You can also make your own cookies and create personal messages.  Another version is to make your own cupcakes and frost them with special messages in red icing.  You can also give your spouse a true treat and track down a box of his or her favorite Girl Scout cookie.

So I hope this helps and your willing to have a go with boosting and keeping your relationship alive on 4 simple ideas on budget, it's possible it doesn't have to cost a fortune! Let me know how it goes keep in touch on the page below and let me know the outcomes!!! Best Wishes
Genovieve Feasey Relationship Solution Therapeutic Coach
www.thechoicetochange.com
Hypnotherapist, Psychotherapist in High Wycombe, Buckinghamshire.

Saturday 13 July 2013

Are You A Jealous Lover?


Are You A Jealous Partner?

What do you do when that little, green eyed monster, as it's so often called, jealousy bites you? It can happen to the best of couples, no matter what stage your relationship is in. There's help out there if you just cannot fix the issue between the two of you.

Hi I'm Genovieve Relationship Therapist and Hypnotherapist, in High Wycombe, Bucks.  I specialize in helping in
awkward times when there is this type of Conflict and together we can look at ways to deal with jealousy, its history and what the commitment is from the two of you.  Life M.O.T  FREE Half Hour Consultation

Sometimes, it feels like there is no defense against this ridge building phenomenon. Most people are not jealous by nature but jealousy is usually put into action by some event, situation or another person.  If you are insecure about your relationship and very dependent on your lover you are likely to be jealous.  After jealousy creeps in we begin to spy on our lover, worrying about the situation and reviewing the evidence. Suspicion is a strong emotion here.

If we decide there is a threat to our love, we can have a very wide range of responses like clinging dependency, violent rage at the competitor or the partner, self-criticism, and depression with suicidal thoughts. But is there any way to conquer this feeling and overcome jealousy Here are some ways you can handle jealousy

1. Isolate the cause of jealousy. You may think that jealousy is caused by your partner looking sexy or by a certain person at work. But that isn't the real cause. That is just a symptom. Try to understand what the real cause is, so that you can then work on finding a solution.

2. Focus on eliminating one jealousy trigger. You also need to realise that jealousy can be overcome easily. So start out by focusing on an activity where you work through one of the main triggers for your jealousy and try to find the cause.

3. Build up your self-esteem. Most of the jealousy situations are caused by the jealous lovers feeling that they are not good enough for their partners. They feel inadequate and they feel that their partner would leave them for someone else, if given half a chance.

So here are some useful Tips above and it's best working through your insecurities and communicating them to your partner. The longer you resist the longer it will all persist!!!

If you feel so stuck and no one to talk too, confidentially I want to make you aware of my offer FREE Half Hour Consultation my details and website for further information is... http://thechoicetochange.com/contact/